community
Rant: Fuck your community

Seriously. I’m not trying to be hateful, just honest. I’ve had the pleasure (mostly) of being able to be a part of local BDSM communities around the world. Some have run like well oiled machines, friendly faces and helping hands all around. Others have been run like the classroom of a preschool teacher’s worst nightmare. … [Tell me more…]
It ain’t easy being kinky

I’m having a mid-kink identity crisis. I’ve come to notice it’s not as easy as, “I think therefore I am” within the kink community or kinky mindset. Over the years I’ve evolved into my own image of what I want to embody as kink. There are certain activities I won’t engage in and others I … [Tell me more…]
Lips like morphine

I love kink but I’m not in love with kink…not anymore at least. I’m sure that feeling will come back in time but for now, I just feel sort of “meh” about the whole thing. My friends on the other hand—well that’s a different story. I’ve noticed that when I meet people who were recently … [Tell me more…]
Flirting: A fine art

I’ve often said that I believe flirting should be treated as a fine art. It is not something one can wander into with no experience, no clear objective, and certainly no quips on hand. For me when I am flirted with it either goes into one of two categories: 1) Nice try bum. Next! or … [Tell me more…]
Just say when

Some friends of mine had a heated debate regarding safewords. Some people hate safewords, feeling that they restrict the natural flow of the relationship and their play time. Others don’t understand their proper place and find them amusing. While the majority of people use safewords to well…feel safe. Safewords are pre-determined word(s) or a phrase … [Tell me more…]