As a longtime advocate and participant of Locktober as a Keyholder (and self-locked one year, for science!), chastity isn’t new to me. The pros and cons aren’t at all hard to discern. However, when I first became aware of it, I only knew it from a vanilla context to rebuild trust after cheating. The more … [Tell me more…]
When you think about BDSM and the aspect of service, I bet one of the first things that come to your mind is about willpower. How can a submissive endure that?Why do they agree to this over and over?What can they be telling themselves to push through?When will they give up?Where do they summon the … [Tell me more…]
As I looked down at him writhing in purposefully bargained for pain I couldn’t help thinking to myself… ‘One year ago I started the search for a slave and with his helpless body beneath me, I could say it was worth the wait thus far.‘ Was he “the” slave? The one I’ve been cautiously creating … [Tell me more…]
On my quest for a new slave (is this even the right title for what I am seeking?), I have been taking my time finalizing my desires and digging deep into my expectations. I’ve been asking myself, what specifically I’m seeking and what the process will look like to fine tune a human to my … [Tell me more…]
I’ve cleared my spam box, especially for this post, as I know I’m going to illicit some strong emotions in some readers. I have a very specific way of doing my kink. It manifests as high protocol, extreme structure, decedent clothing, trips, and fetish wear, expensive toys, and yes, invasive rules that I try to … [Tell me more…]
Not too long ago I had a chat on the podcast Kink in the Chains with host, Rope Squirrel. Our conversation touched on a little of some of my most favorite kink topics such as… Hear all the details – give it a listen!
Keep your standards too high I’ve been told on more than one occasion… ‘Wow you have really high standards.’ or ‘Maybe your standards are too high.’ The thing is, I don’t believe in having “too high standards”. I believe in unrealistic standards – they can be high, low, or just shit. Over the years in … [Tell me more…]
Poly people, sit down, *whew*, let’s have a chat. Oh wait, let me dial the ENM participants in as well, they’ll want to hear this. Yes, I know they’re new around here but this is for them too. Everyone here? Great, get comfortable, but not too comfortable, as that seems to be part of the … [Tell me more…]
It’s a new year and as we all like to pretend it’s time for change. Real change this time, right?Whether you like it or not, it is as Heraclitus said, ‘Nothing is permanent except change.’ It’s inevitable. So why do we hate it so much or fight it when it’s presented to us? Simply put, … [Tell me more…]