For years, My work in the BDSM lifestyle has been centered on education, community-building, and radically honest dialogue. I’ve poured My energy into kink events, discussions, workshops, and classes across the globe that help other kinksters explore BDSM in safe, informed, and consensual ways. But now, I’m making the difficult decision to step back from some of those public-facing activities—not because I’m any less passionate about them, but because the fight for democracy is calling Me.
The political landscape in the U.S. is rapidly shifting in increasingly dangerous ways, and those shifts don’t just threaten broad democratic freedoms—they also pose real risks to My OUR ability to live authentically as kinksters. The undeniable tide of authoritarianism, censorship, and attacks on personal liberties isn’t abstract. It’s happening in real time, affecting real people, and I refuse to stand by while those in power attempt to erase our rights.
This fight is personal
As a woman, and specifically as a Black woman, this fight carries additional weight. Our rights over our bodies, our voices, and our agency have historically been challenged, controlled, and stripped away. The attacks on bodily autonomy, whether through abortion bans or increased criminalization of sex work, directly impact women and marginalized communities the hardest. The suppression of voting rights in predominantly Black districts is not just an attack on democracy—it’s a direct attack on BIPOC’s ability to shape the society we live in.
And in the kink world, where consent is supposed to be a fundamental value, the broader political war against personal freedoms is just as concerning. If our democracy crumbles, if censorship expands unchecked, if lawmakers continue to weaponize morality to police people’s private lives, then the ability to be a kinkster—openly, safely, and without fear—will be another casualty.
How I’m fighting back
That’s why I’m intentionally redirecting My energy. Instead of focusing solely on teaching and hosting lifestyle events, I’m actively engaging in protests, rallies, and other forms of direct action in the Washington, DC area. Whether it’s marching to protect voting rights, rallying for bodily autonomy, or confronting policies that threaten free expression, I’m using My voice and presence to push back against forces that would rather see communities like ours silenced.
I’ve been attending, coordinating and promoting events for actions that defend both Black and women’s rights. I’ve been showing up at demonstrations against book bans and online censorship—issues that may seem unrelated to kink at first glance but have direct implications for access to sex education, adult content, and our ability to freely discuss alternative lifestyles. I’ve also joined efforts to counter anti-LGBTQIA+ legislation, which disproportionately impacts the kink and queer communities alike. I’ve been vocal about equal rights, anti-capitalism, and immigration issues. And when I’m not in the streets, I’ll be developing new BDSM classes and content that empower people to explore their identities safely, even in the face of increasing restrictions—just a bit more slowly than usual.
How can you get involved?
I can’t do this alone. If you care about personal freedom, bodily autonomy, and the ability to live authentically, NOW is the time to act. Here are some ways you can get involved:
1. Show up in person
- Attend protests and rallies in your area. Organizations like Indivisible, NowMarch, and Planned Parenthood often list upcoming events
- DC: Check out actions organized by ShutDownDC and local voting rights groups
- VA: Common Defense is the largest grassroots organization of progressive veterans
- MD: Don’t forget about Maryland Communities Unite providing opportunities for policy education, discourse and action
2. Use your voice online
- Share resources and calls to action on social media. Follow and boost organizations that are doing the work, like the ACLU or Reproaction
- Push back against censorship by supporting sex-positive educators (like Myself) and content creators. Report harmful policies to groups like Fight for the Future, who defend technology as a force for liberation.
3. Support organizations financially
- If you have the means, donate to bail funds like The National Bail Fund Network or legal defense funds supporting activists and sex workers
- Subscribe to independent journalists, content creators, and donate to broadcasting organizations like NPR who are covering these issues without corporate interference
4. Have all the conversations…even if they’re uncomfortable
- Talk to your friends and family about why these issues matter. Help others see the connections between democracy, personal freedom, and the ability to live legitimately
- Engage with local and state representatives. Demand action! Vote in every election not just one every four years (for now).
This isn’t just about politics. This isn’t about silly red and blue teams. This is about defending the spaces and freedoms that allow ALL of us to be who we are without fear. The ability to engage in consensual kink, to teach, to learn, and to build community without obstruction is tied directly to the health of our democracy. And that health bar is rapidly declining before our eyes. If we don’t fight for that democracy now, we risk losing more than just our rights—we risk losing the very ability to express ourselves in and out of the bedroom.
So while I may be less visible in some of My usual spaces, events, and parties, know that I’m still here, still fighting, still creating. And I invite you to join Me—whether that’s on the pavement, in the conversations we have, or in the ways we choose to resist. Because the freedom to be a kinkster, an alternative lifestyles educator, and a human being unapologetically exploring pleasure and power—these are freedoms worth fighting for.