After my trip to London I feel a bit empty. Aside from my personal issues while there my scene experience was great…too great in fact. It’s made me feel as if the scene in this area is not where I belong.
When I was overseas it was like a parallel universe where plus size dominant women were in high demand but low supply. My American accent was charming and an instant conversation starter and any British accents were added bonus points for me. I got to attend three fetish events in the week that I was there and while I didn’t get to know “everyone” I felt as if the crowd was much more welcoming than in the Metro DC area, which is a shame…because this is where I live.
I also got to meet with five potential submissives, only one of who I had actually chatted with online. The previous guys all backed out in one form or another—so I guess they have that in common with the American men as well. But the gents I did meet while there were a total delight and needed little to no coaching on my part to be submissive toward me. It was amusing leading one guy around by his belt buckle in the busy streets of London as we did get a few odd looks haha.
I know that I don’t go out in Washington, DC scene anymore because it is a bit of a headache with the social politics (two groups are vying for attention and hold their festivities on the same night every month), the influx of Pro Dommes at every event trying to drum up business, and the general clique feel of things. It seems to be all in “who you know” and “not what you like” in this area.
I’ve been dreading admitting this because I’m not sure if it was a mix of the travel bug (i.e. new place = blinders, foreign country, etc) or if it really is as black and white as it appears from my end. I’ve been back two months now and still, like a steady, annoying, drip from a leaky ceiling the men contacting me here are not within my criteria. The fact that many of them don’t take the time to read a few simple words on a profile that states what I’m looking for in bullet format really irks the shit out of me! I find myself more angry at the fact that they blatantly ignore my wishes to write me promising how devotedly submissive they are and how well they follow instructions than the actual messages themselves.
So, the question remains, “Where are all the good male DC submissives?“
I reckon you should just come back to London! An American Mistress in London… Is that a new Belle du jour thing?
Great story. I've found that men tend to fall into two categories, those that read and love to read erotica as well, and those that never read but just "read" what they want too through a photo.
It seems that the latter group will never join the former.
Great blog by the way. 🙂
Oh yes! What an agony and I hear you loud and clear! Of course I agree with Vanessa as well.
Painstaking and quite annoying indeed! I'm tired of all the subs saying they are ready for anything and everything and then……. poof*
I've attributed their pathetic behaviors to many different things but, in the end; good subs are a rare breed.
Glad to hear though, you had some wonderful nights out on the town!
@O: I'm not sure what it is, that's just the way it was for me…but yes perhaps I should return.
@Vanessa: It does seem as if they "skim" the important stuff haha. What nonsense!
@A Divine Destiny: It is a shame that they verbally are more prepared than mentally. Tsk tsk
It may not be DC is inherently uncool, I think it sounds like you are craving for a change of scene to inject that enthusisasm back.
I cosign O: if the grass is greener on the other side, jump over the fence!! If little is stopping you from coming back now, you should plan for that and enjoy every damn minute..!